How do you apply mindfulness to intimacy?
- Narrate your reality by paying attention to what is happening during sex. Example: Envision the way your lover's tongue is circling your clit, notice how your clit jumps and how it grows, notice how their chin is slightly brushing against your vulva, notice your nipples getting harder, watch where your lover's hands are placed and how it makes your body feel. Narrate your reality in your mind from an empowered, satisfied position.
- Focus on your breath. If your mind begins to wander to things unrelated to the moment's sensuousness, simply switch to observing your breathing. Women tend to hold their breath during sex, and it blocks their orgasmic blessings. BREATHEEEEEEE!!!! If and when you forget, just start back up. I do quick breaths through my nose, into my belly, and out my mouth during sex. During my exhale, I make sure it sounds like a sexy moan.
- Love toward yourself. Don't be afraid to caress yourself, squeeze your breast, play with your nipples, brush your legs against his body, thrust your body towards them. Do whatever is going to help you feel sensual and sexy during the moment.
- Don't set any expectations. Expectations put pressure on you and your partner. Be intentional about the journey so that you are satisfied with whatever outcome. Don't overthink or compare to other people's experiences. Stop watching so much porn and use the creativity of your mind to bring excitement. The fears, insecurities, and doubts roaming through your mind are not always true, and out of the infinite possibilities, I'm certain your lover isn't thinking what you think they're feeling. So relax and just enjoy the moment. Be present!
- Have a better attitude. Going in with a defeated attitude (I'm not going to cum, he's going to cum fast, this isn't going to feel good, I feel fat, I look a mess, my vagina has a hair bump, etc.) is going to end in disappointment. Be enthusiastic, you are a manifestor and your words, thoughts and feelings will manifest your reality. So be intentional.
Intention: Before intimacy, sit with yourself and say, "This encounter is going to awaken my body and release any trapped energy." During sex, you can visualize that trapped energy moving throughout your chakras, being released through your crown.
- Tap into your Feminine InnerG. Be soft, vulnerable, and open. Hopefully, you are engaging with someone you trust and love, so it should be easier to relax in their presence. Free of judgment to express yourself fully, someone grateful for gaining access to your sacred portal. Get your sexy on, talk sensually, tell your lover when you're enjoying something, and be comfortable sharing what you would most enjoy. If you do not know what you would most enjoy, spend time with yourself to figure that out.
- Take your SheOrgasms Sensual Enhancement supplements. One of the ingredients in SheOrgasms is Ashwagandha. Ashwagandha is a fantastic herb; it helps your body manage stress and ultimately relax your body and brain. It helps relieve anxiety and depression. When you have less stress/cortisol in your body, you can relax more, and your Feminine InnerG is eager to flow. Amongst the other herbs used, SheOrgasms is a great supplement for a woman to take, and it also helps transition from a busy day of handling things to a vulnerable place of getting handled.
